As a child…

If you didn’t get attention as a child, you want to attract attention. With an attractive personality, attractive body. In an attempt to feel wanted.  

If you didn’t get approval of who you where as a child, you want to win approval. With a winning personality.

If you didn’t feel needed as a child, you make yourself needed, as a substitute for being wanted and lovable.

If you weren’t valued as a child, you are obsessed with measuring up to people’s expectations, so they value you.  

If you didn’t feel important as a child, you will become a helper. Now you are important.

If you weren’t liked as a child, you will be a nice person. Liked by everyone.

If you weren’t to feel special as a child, you will be a demanding personality.

If you weren’t loved for who you where as a child, you will become very charming.

If you needed esteem as a child, you will get esteem by impressing people. An impressing personality

None of these ADAPTATIONS will ever meet YOUR needs.

– Quoted and inspired by the lectures of Gabor Maté